To put this into context I (34f) have recently completed a trial no contact run with my sister (37f) and our parents. Growing up I was abused by my father who suffered PTSD from serving in the military and had substance abuse problems and by my older sister. My dad would routinely beat me with a belt until I couldn't sit down. My sister pushed me down stairs and in front of moving cars. My mom to this day says I was just accident prone.

Fast forward to adulthood. My sister lives off of welfare. I mean section 8 housing, stamps, Medicaid, and child support. That's it. My parents live with my grandparent rent free for the last 20 years. Neither parent works they live off my dad's military pension. I have a husband and son. Our lives haven't been perfect in the textbook sense but we always talk things through and continuely choose each other.

My reason for going no contact is my sister is seriously insane and my mother enables it. She gets away with being on drugs and contributing nothing to society. If I ever question her she says I don't get it because I have a man. To which I tell them we both choose who we had kids with it's not my fault she chose wrong. If she has a mental breakdown I'm expected to talk her off the ledge. If she has no money I'm expected to cash app her. If she needs a ride I'm supposed to go in between my jobs to help her.

Last year I lost it and I did a trial no contact. In that time I stopped drinking, lost 80lbs, and started a new career. My relationship is the happiest and healthiest it's ever been. I no longer self harm either.

I started talking to them again after 13 months and it's all the same with them. They don't have money. They don't have goals or any ambition. They just want thing handed to them. They call me selfish and say if I didn't have my man I'd go crawling back to them. But truth be told I'm tired of it all. I'm tired of serving them. I'm tired of being the punching bag. I'm tired of the stress they bring into my life. And so we're planning a big move. Out of state. And I plan on changing my number and essentially dropping off their radar. So much so I'm cutting contact with extended family too.

Here's a small list of my biggest grievances most recently. 1. I let my mom use my old vehicle and put her on the title so she could insure it and she sold it. 2. I paid my sister to watch my son after school she used the money to buy drugs and take it with him in the home. 3. My sister gave my underage nephew weed bc she wanted him to be safe with her instead of him experimenting. 4. I miscarried and they celebrated my misery by telling anyone and everyone I was pregnant. This was after I lost it. So I had people congratulating me for weeks after and I had to tell them I miscarried. 5. They didn't buy anything for us for christmas but I spent $300 on them. Showed up for the holiday and they took the presents but left me at the door. 6. They tried to turn our extended family against me. When that didn't work they emailed my work claiming I was on drugs.

This is just the most recent stuff. AITAH? Is this normal and I just need to get off my high horse like they keep telling me?