I (25F) was dating my boyfriend (27M) for 10 months. Things started great, but over time, I realized he was lying to me about serious things—like drug use, overdosing, and how he was spending his time. He told me he almost overdosed and that his mom took his keys and was monitoring him. I later found out, while he’s been in a coma, that none of that was true—he drove himself to urgent care and wasn’t drug tested. He also disappeared, avoided my questions, and may have been seeing other people during that time.

He spiraled emotionally and mentally. I tried to help, but he started drinking at work, blamed me for things out of my control, and became increasingly reckless. Just before a major accident, he came to my house on an ATV. Because it’s not street legal, the police followed him there. I begged him to stay at my house and sober up or let someone else drive us, but he refused. He wanted to lead the police on a chase. He took off, and shortly after, crashed. He was airlifted to a hospital and has been in a coma ever since.

Before the accident, he told me he didn’t know if he wanted to be with me anymore and listed things like my body count, my “naivety,” my “wrong view of the world,” and that I’m “half in and half out of everything”—things I can’t really change.

His mom has been introducing me to hospital staff as his girlfriend, but I can’t be that for him anymore. I still care to know when he wakes up and how he’s doing, but I’ve decided to go no contact and ask that he not reach out if and when he wakes up. My mental health can’t handle it, and he broke my trust too many times. I haven't texted her yet as I don't know what to say, but I'm emotionally fatigued and can't continue to feel this way.

AITA for making this decision now?