So I (27F) and my husband (32M) are keeping minimal contact with his parents. My husband’s father and stepmother specifically. This has occurred due to my step MIL making disparaging remarks about my mother in front of his siblings while we were all on a family vacation. My husband was not in the room at the time and I did not say anything during to him during the vacation.

It was about two weeks after the vacation when I was on a call with my step MIL while she was venting and speaking ill of other people that I told my husband I needed him to get me off of the call. He called me immediately and I let him know everything that transpired. He proceeded to inform his mother that she needed to keep her distance and that we were going to keep our distance for the time being. I was dealing with a lot mentally and need to focus on my health.

Skipping a few weeks further my FIL contacted my husband and told him that he was frustrated by the whole ordeal and we needed to work things out. My husband talked with me and I agreed to meet and a date was set. When we met the meeting immediately turned sour. When politely load out our grievances to them, and immediately my step MIL snapped at us and kept her voice raised the entire time. My FIL told my husband that he was disappointed in him and said that since they hadn’t raised issues over some small things that had occurred that we shouldn’t be making this a big issue. When we left they thought the issue was resolved, but my husband was getting me away from them as quickly as he could as I had shutdown mentally.

Two days later my husband let them know that the issue was not resolved and told them how upset we were over how they acted that night. We told them that we would continue maintaining the minimal contact with them. They responded that they were upset over how everything transpired and we continued like this for sometime.

During all of this, my step MIL had went to my husband’s closest sister and spun the story in her favor. This sister was in my wedding as a bridesmaid and this caused a lot of pain to both of us. She proceeded to block me and has not contacted us since my step MIL got to her.

We do have support from his bio mother and the rest of the siblings. Several of whom have had very similar experiences with his dad and step mom, with us falling for some the same story spinning from his step mom that is know happening with the above mentioned sister.

To add to the story, a few months later my step MIL called my husband and asked if she could stop by and talk turns out she was in front of our house and we did not know. I agreed to allow for her to stop by, which was late at night at this point. She came in and tried to play the victim. She made a non apology and said she was sorry about the way that we took what she said. I had become upset with all this and raised my voice a bit, telling her that she had disrespected my mother and family and that there was no misunderstanding at this. She attempted to use this as a way to turn my husband against me and even said that my husband should be defending her over his own wife. My husband quickly shut this down and told her I come before everyone and everything else. This ended the conversation and he escorted her out. This was the last interaction I have had with her.