I m(35) and my significant other f(35) are both over weight. Before we met In 2018 I was overweight and lost a lot of it doing keto for a out a year. It was so nice to wear nice clothes and be happy to look in the mirror.

It is now 2025 and we are both overweight. Over the last few years we had talked about trying to losse weight together we did try NOOM for a bit and I wasn't a big fan. We had tried couch to 5k one year. We were u able to get the commitment out of both of us. Throughout the years I had kept suggesting keto with how much success I had with it and how much I enjoyed it. She didn't want to try it and wanted to try somthing else. It wa sat this point we had tried NOOM. It didn't work for me.

I do all the cooking in the household and she is an incredibly picky eater. Because of this handicap I had asked her to find a diet that would work. She has a lot of trouble making decisions. After a while it would fall to the wayside untill it would get brought back up 6 to 12 months later .

Recently I was having some issues with my self esteem. I normally rock a bit a stubble. For our Christmas party I had gone clean shaven and a co worker made a comment about how I looked better with the facial hair. The facial hair had covered my " chins". That really hurt. So I ended up growing a much larger beard. I ahvnt grown it this long in years. And a few weeks ago I stepped on the scale* not something I normally do* and it went above 300 pounds. The biggest I have ever been. Between constantly buying new clothes and hitting that terrible milestone of 300 pounds I decided it was time to make a change.

So I went on keto. I do all the grocery shopping and the cooking. I did not make her eat keto. I would tweak my dishes.

Anyways over the past few months when ever I had brought up my weight and how bad it was she would deflect. She was trying to save my feelings by saying I'm handsome or I like you like this. I would say I am un happy. I have to buy new clothes all the time. I don't want to throw out my "skinny" clothes as I really want to wear them again.

I even said I am physically feeling the effects. My knees and ankles are always sore and I am sure it's from the additional weight.

Anyways we had just had a fight so emotions were running high. We we finally coming down and she had said "did you see the two links I sent you, I figure it would be something fun to do"

The two links were for bakeries. I told her you are being really dismissive of how unhappy I am with my weight. I really don't want to go to a bakery right now. I am really struggling with my self image.

She apologize ld and ask what we could do. It was then I said I had already started Keto 1 week ago.

She did not take it well. She said I don't communicate with her ( which has been an issue in our history) I don't respect her feelings ( she wanted to try room, I didn't like it).