TLDR:
Went on a trip with coworkers. First night, they got super drunk, brought two random men into our Airbnb, and hooked up in the shared space while I was there. I felt unsafe and left to finish the trip solo. Now they say I ruined their trip, accuse me of stealing, and refuse to pay me back for expenses we agreed to split.

I (26M) recently went on a trip with two coworkers (Coworker 1 & 2, both 24F) that we planned earlier this year. They later invited another coworker (Coworker 3 - 24M), who would be arriving a few days later. Before the trip, we planned to attend a music festival. Coworker 1 bought a ticket from a local seller. I went with her, and when she didn’t have cash, I paid and she said she’d transfer me later. I was also holding onto basketball tickets I’d bought for the three of us. We agreed to split those costs. We also agreed to split groceries, the rental car (which was under my name), and some shared errands.

We had three basic group rules: safety first, we all come home together, and no randoms in our Airbnb.

We flew overnight, with a layover, and I barely got 1.5 hours of sleep. When we landed, Coworker 2 had issues with her e-SIM. She asked me to pay for it with my card, and I agreed, adding it to the list of what she owed me.

We got the rental car and went to get groceries (paid on my card, split three ways). We went elsewhere and they bought more groceries and personal items. Coworker 2’s card “didn’t work” again, so I paid for her stuff too, adding it to the list of what she owed me.

By now I was totally exhausted and just wanted to rest at the Airbnb. Meanwhile, my coworkers were planning a double date with two guys they had just met on Hinge. They tried to get me to come by saying my dinner would be “free,” but I declined and stayed behind.

Around 11 PM, I texted them to check in. No response. I texted again at midnight. They replied saying they were drunk. I told them to drink water and said I was ready to pick them up if needed.

At 1 AM, I heard someone trying to open our Airbnb door. It was double-locked, so I got up—assuming it was them—and opened it. But it was one of the random men they had gone out with. He was surprised to see me and asked what I was doing in “our” Airbnb. I told him I was staying there and asked him to leave. He used our bathroom, asked for the door code (which I didn’t give), and then left. Minutes later, #1 replied to my text saying they were fine. I locked the door again and went to sleep.

At 3 AM, I woke up to loud banging. It was both coworkers—drunk, soaking wet (???), with the two guys behind them. Coworker 1 slurred, “Whatever is about to happen, I’ll explain it in the morning.”

They ran to the bathroom while the two men walked in uninvited and went straight to the balcony. My coworkers then told me to “close my eyes and cover my ears.” And then they all went outside and hooked up on the balcony.

I was stunned, scared, and totally overwhelmed. This wasn’t a joke. I grabbed all my stuff quietly and left the Airbnb at 3:30 AM.

I went to get the rental car but had to pay $50 to get it out of the lot (license plate wasn't registered yet). I FaceTimed a friend while I searched for last-minute hotel rooms—everything was expensive due to the festival, but I found one for $95 and checked in around 4:45 AM.

The next morning, I woke up to 15+ missed calls and a bunch of texts asking where I was, if I was safe, etc. They apologized and said they “needed me.” I messaged back saying I was fine, I didn’t feel safe, and I’d be continuing the trip solo. #1 asked if we could have a convo about what happened as they were drunk. I didn't reply.

#1 asked for the basketball tickets. I sent two of them so they could still go and was asked for the third, (?)but said it was sold.

I had to find last-minute accommodations for the rest of the trip and even changed my flight home to avoid running into them. Everything cost more because of the festival, and I had to eat that cost just to stay safe and at peace.

When Coworker 3 arrived, I picked him up and dropped him off at the Airbnb. It was a mess—he said there was sand on the beds, mystery stains, and even a burnt spoon in the sink. He stayed one night with clean blankets, then booked a hotel for the rest of the trip.

He tried texting #1 & 2 to meet up, but they dodged or delayed responses. Eventually, #1 told him she “didn’t feel safe around me” and “couldn’t trust me,” which confused both of us.

I waited a few days after we got home to cool off and then asked to be reimbursed for the agreed-upon expenses: groceries, Target runs, e-SIM. I didn’t ask for money for the rental car since I ended up using it solo.

#1 responded saying they wouldn’t pay me back and accused me of: “Stealing” the groceries I bought, “going through their luggage”, “staging the Airbnb” to make it look messy, “taking the car for myself”, and “ruining their trip”.

All while they posted party content on social media for days, including bragging about staying awake for 60+ hours.

Now, even after the trip is over, they’re still refusing to pay me back and have started spreading rumours about me at work—telling people I’m “untrustworthy”, “scary,” and all kinds of nasty things all because I left the trip after being put in an unsafe situation.

I followed our agreed rules, paid for shared expenses, and looked out for them when they were blackout drunk. But once they brought random strangers into our Airbnb and made me feel completely unsafe, I chose peace and left. I didn’t cause drama. I just got out.

Now they’re accusing me of being dramatic, untrustworthy, and are refusing to pay me back.

AITAH for leaving and finishing the trip on my own?