I (25f) had an icky feeling and I committed the cardinal sin of going through his (28m) phone. I know I shouldn’t have but I don’t feel guilty because I found something gross and awful. I don’t know how to bring it up to him because I don’t want him to know I went through his phone but I also don’t know how to end the relationship for no reason. Without being too specific, essentially he really wants to bang his coworker. (He hasn’t but he talks to his friends about it a lot). He’s her manager so it’s extra icky. He also constantly says extremely misogynistic things about women to his friends. I’m taking, “women are incapable of having morals” and “women are incapable of having meaning outside of men” and they roles they belong in etc. Horrifying. He always tells these friends about the most intimate struggles of my life and belittles me as well. But he’ll describe whatever issue I have and then rather than saying “___ is pathetic” he’ll say “women are pathetic.” I just don’t know what to do or how to bring it up or if I even do because objectively, it was wrong to go through his phone. And just to defend myself, I used to think I was really good at reading people and he’s genuinely the nicest, most thoughtful guy I’ve ever met. I really thought he was perfect. I just can’t even believe what I found. What do you think? Should I bury my head in the sand and go back to pretending everything is normal because I shouldn’t have gone through his phone? Is this just normal banter and venting with the boys? Am I the asshole for going though his phone in the first place even though I found awful shit?