For the past 13 years, I have never put my child’s father on child support. I have always said I understand if you can’t help, but we will go to court if you won’t help. 
 There was a point when our child was younger and BD had a major stroke and took months to recover. I didn’t ask for anything from him. I did what needed to be done for our child. I never stopped him from spending with him. Family trips, Daddy days, etc., I never stopped. We have typically been able to communicate whatever is needed from the other and have been able to adjust our schedules to make it work. We’ve even taken family trips together and we haven’t been able to couple in YEARS! 
 We ended our relationship because he was abusive to me and only me. Our arguing and issues seemed to have ceased over the years, but recently things have changed. I have made it clear for several years that I do not want to ever be intimate with him or have a relationship outside of coparenting, and for the most part he has respected that. Outside of an occasional random drunken phone call, he has respected that boundary until this year. He has made it abundantly clear that he wants to sleep with me again, but I continue to refuse. Now, I’m called out of my name and verbally abused and disparaged  because I refused his advances. He brings up old issues that no longer apply to us because we are not together. 
 Because of me denying him, he is now threatening to withhold the money he sends me for our child to get me to help him or bend to his will. He still thinks I’m the same young naïve girl he dated and hurt years ago. I have grown up. I forgave him. I did not go back. I got a place of my own, work full time, and take damn good care of our child. Outside of what he gives monthly, I have not asked for a dime extra in over 2 years. I don’t want to have to do this, because of the possible outcome, but I feel I must. He can’t think he can talk to me any kind of way, treat me any kind of way, and then try to manipulate me into doing his bidding. I hate it’s come to this. I’ve been nothing but kind to that man with all the tragedies he’s endured, but now he’s giving me his ass to kiss. I am tired of being nice. I just know he’s going to try and make me seem like the bad guy because I want to involve the courts.