Basically I (M19) and my partner (nonbinary 21) had drove friends over to our house; but admittedly it was more my idea than theirs and it caused a bit of a conflict between us. We never raise our voices or get petty but there was a lingering sense of unease in the air. I later apologize for not addressing this vibe sooner and how I was in the wrong about planning this hangout without their full approval. When we get home with our friends however I notice they just get unusually quiet and later ask to just stay in their room. Me and my partner have always made it a very good point in the past we would be open and honest with one another so I thought they were simply tired. They walked away to their room as I was entertaining our friends without any noticeable issue. 30 minutes of us all talking must have gone around before I had the idea to go to the gas station and grab snacks for all of us. I went to my partners room to ask if they wanted anything and to my surprise I did not see them there. I got frantic and went looking all over the house but they were not there. I quickly notified my friends and we all got very scared. I tried calling but every call went straight to voicemail. So I went to their location and saw they were by a nearby pond we usually chill at together. We end up heading over there and I see my partner in their car crying hysterically to their friend. I immediately just get shaken up in stress and fear and confusion and go mute for 10 minutes, I snap out of it and try to console my partner and ask questions; they later said they didn’t want to bother me and our company with their emotions but they felt like having alone time because they felt like we always do everything I want to do or with our friends and that they also additionally feel alone in that they felt like our friends were really only friends with me and didn’t like them. I resonated hard with their emotions and I didn’t want to neglect what they were saying. I admittedly have been very me centred lately on hanging out and I apologized profusely. I just felt like driving away to a isolated spot in the middle of the night without telling any of us and not picking up my calls had broke a bit of my trust and heart. I always felt like we could come together; and for them to react this way had made me feel like they didn’t fully trust me anymore. We later got home in tears and everyone is assured and safe; we had a lengthy talk my partner and I before we went to sleep and hugged it out and apologized to one another. But idk… I thought I could easily forgive them but a part of me feels really hurt, scared of another emotional outburst, and just worried. Am I anxious? Am I being a asshole? I would love some constructive advice on how to go about this situation.