my mother (35) is prone to being occasioanlly physically abusive, often verbally and emotionally abusive. she is a control freak, paranoid, thinks everyone is out to get her and has often damaged or threatened to damage my friendships with others. the whole "everyones after us" "dont trust anyone" narrative. she's done alot of nonsense but some examples include threatening to pour bleach on me (later said "yeah well i didnt actually do it", apparently that means its not a problem..) dragged me by the hair when i was like in year 6 (i am now 13. also claims she has no memory of this) and started cutting it because she was mad at me. once kept me in a headlock repeating "I am your mother" - i dont remember the context and i dont think i want to. anyways in some of these incidents ive gotten so fucking fed up i've wound up just hitting her which never ended well for me but hitting nonetheless. am i the asshole? should i report this? if i do, would i be arrested as my mother says i will?