My husband is asking me to forgive and make amends with my parents-in-law but I really cannot get past what they did and the fact that they will not claim responsibility for their actions. Here is the background -

My husband's parents are deeply religious (christian) and just moved to America several years ago from South America. They don’t speak English very well (important context). When we met they seemed as though they liked me but made comments often about how I should dress more modestly, not wear makeup, not listen to certain music etc. So I have always felt a slight strain in our relationship but I always tried to be respectful and kind to them.

About two years ago, I was due to give birth. My parents-in-law volunteered to help around the house while I was recovering in the hospital. I had to stay three days due to a complicated birth. When I got home, I noticed they changed so much in my home. There were new pictures on my walls, my cups and other dishes were moved as well as my coffee maker, even my clothes (under garments included) were re-organized. I was certainly annoyed but I was just happy to be home and healthy with my new baby. Honestly some days went by before I noticed it was missing. I have displayed in my back hallway a beautiful ouija board. But not just any ouija board, a hand-carved piece made from my great-grandfather. The piece and even the display case were missing. I checked everywhere I could possibly think of, but it was nowhere to be found. I immediately demanded my husband call his parents and question its whereabouts. They of course claimed they had no clue to what he was referring to but did offer some scripture on occult items.

This ouija board was very special to me. In my family we don't have any family heirlooms but we have this ouija board. My ancestors settled in the Appalachian Mountains in North Carolina. Not much is known about them, as they lacked documentation and a lot of the stories about them have become more fiction than truth. The story says that my great grandfather wished to speak to someone he loved who passed away. One night a storm came and lightning struck a tree and he used that wood to craft the ouija board. I have no way of telling if that is fact or fiction.

However, I know my grandmother was a spiritualist and did make use of the ouija board. And because she died on the day I was born my Aunts decided I should take possession of the board. Ever since I was old enough to take care of it I have. I don’t know if I believe in the use of the ouija board, but I know not to play with it.

With that being said, that is the issue I have with them. They threw away a priceless family heirloom in the trash (I assume that's where they put it). They have tried on occasion to reach out to me and “get the family together” but I don’t want to until they at the very least admit to what they did. My husband thinks I should move on. But it still upsets me. Am I wrong?