I 25year old male have been married to my 25 year old wife for about 4 and a half years. We have two children, one 3 and the other 9 months. I love my wife and my children however I would be in what is considered a sexless marriage. This isn't just a young 20 something male wishing I had more sex, we have had sex less than 10 times in the last year. Especially with my love language being physical touch this has been very hard on me. I think it is also important to note that I also feel like I caused my wife's lower sex drive by nagging her at the start of our relationship building a negative associations with sex. Due to this I almost never try anything sexual with her because it both makes her feel pressured and it just feels like a let down for me. I should also mention that growing up I had a very toxic relationship with porn and masterbation and so I avoid it as much as possible. Also my wife doesn't think that it is okay. But recently after being shot down on Valentine's Day I decided to start looking again. However I felt really guilty about it afterwards and so I ended up using some of the ai tools out there and make porn gifs of my wife to get off to. There is no way of them getting out into the public and I mostly don't have any guilt but I feel like my wife would not be happy if she found out. So, AITAH?