So let’s just dive right into this. This past weekend has pushed my relationship with my girlfriend to a breaking point. There was a whole separate issue on Friday but I think last night was more of a problem.

My(34m) girlfriend, Olivia(32f), and I have been dating for a little over a year now. We rarely have any issues in our relationship and really haven’t fought much and our communication has been great. However last night she had a last minute “party” at her house. It was more of a get together of three of her friends from work, two of her cousins, and their significant others. So all told it was like 10-12 people over.

At first her cousins(and husbands)had come over and she had texted me they were just talking and going to do dinner together at the house. This was a 3:13pm. I texted her twice after that(specifically 4:16 & 5:01) with no reply back. Strange but ok. At 18:27 I called with no answer. Again strange but I was ok with it because I was outside in the garage working on my truck. It’s important to know I started to drink a few beers(8 Shiner Bocks) while doing so.

Around 8 I came in and showered and checked my phone. Nothing. I started to prepare my dinner when I got a phone call from Olivia(8:40). She said she had stepped outside to smoke and that three of her friends from work had come down around 6 and they were drinking. She asked if I wanted to come over. I told her no that I had been drinking and still was. She said she had to go back in but would call me back.

About 15 mins later she calls me back telling me she wishes I was there. All I could hear was music and people laughing and talking. She then set the phone down and I could hear that she had obviously walked away and was talking to people there. For about 10 mins I sat on the phone while she was gone and I kept yelling her name. Finally I hung up the phone, this was 9:18. I get in bed around 11:30 without hearing anything from her. I had maybe just got to sleep when at 12:02 I get a call from her. She was upset with me cause I had hung up on her earlier and then “ignored” her all night. I explained that she set the phone down and walked away. She told me that yeah because I had people over and didn’t want to be rude but she wanted to include me since I couldn’t be there. I explained that I didn’t want to sit on the phone listening to a party I wasn’t even invited to or told about until 8:40 at night. I told her I wasn’t mad at her but just upset and disappointed. I then hear her cousin, Rachael, in the back saying to get off the phone with that fucker and that Todd invited us over to his house; Todd is Racheal’s brother in law and is married just to clarify. But upon hearing that Olivia told me she had to go and hung up.

It’s just past 8am right now and I woke up to 21 texts, 13 missed calls, and a missed FaceTime. Rachael even sent me a fucking video of Olivia crying outside Todd’s because of our little argument. In it she’s saying that I’m an asshole because she’s upset. Idk I feel like I wasn’t that harsh and kinda justified. So AITAH?