I was out in the livingroom late because I was hungry and then got caught up in a show after spending an hour in bed talking to my wife before she started watching her show on her iPad. Wife came out and insisted I was avoiding her and I told her I was not. She said to come to bed and I did. Then she dug into me about me lying about how I feel. I asked her not to do this tonight, but she persisted.

I told her, "I'm going to be honest because you asked me to. I left because I was hungry and ate and got caught up in a show. I didn't think it was a problem because you were watching your show. But honestly, right now I'm struggling because I want to get up and leave."

She replied, "I'm glad because now it feels like the truth." But it felt very uneasy.

I pointed out that I was always saying the same thing. She said, " Well you always lie because you don't tell me how you really feel and that's a lie by omission."

I didn't reply that I don't owe anybody a discussion on how I'm feeling, although I believe that to be true. I asked her again not to do this tonight. But after her repeating that I lie about how I'm feeling several times, I felt the need to say something. I said, "Honestly, I feel like saying how I feel sometimes gets me in trouble with you. I don't think it's wrong to keep my feelings to myself when I don't feel safe sharing."

That set her off and she yelled at me about how that is still lying and if I don't feel safe with her, I shouldn't be with her. Then she stormed off into the other room, where she remains. I feel that kind of proved my point. Pretty sure she feels I'm being an AH.

So, AITAH?