My husband and I (36m, 32f) have recently had a baby. (9months) We've been together about 6 years. His parents are around a lot. He helps them with almost everything they do. They aren't very old but are "country" and not very adept at anything tech or "new". They are both alcoholics and chain smokers. I'm talking he drinks constantly. Beer all day. She drinks at least two bottles of wine a day. They go through a carton of cigarettes together in a day. I'll never understand how they afford this. I've had numerous problems with them over the course of our relationship but for the most part we all get along nicely. His mother always seemed so sweet. I've figured out how wrong I was but that's another story. She has been diagnosed with a terminal illness. She has been told she could live another 10 years as long as she stops smoking and drinking and takes better care of herself. Initially she was fine, but in the last few weeks she's decided she is going to unalive herself. I understand being scared and not wanting to suffer an extended period and basically winding up a vegetable. I've asked her to consider talking to a therapist. She won't because only "nutty people" see therapists. She's worried what everyone at church will think. I've tried explaining they won't know unless she tells them. Cannot get her to understand therapy is healthy and also completely private. A few days ago she made an offhand comment about how if anything ever happened to the baby that it would be ok because she would be in heaven to take care of him for me. He's perfectly healthy so this was a very random thing to say and we were NOT discussing anything remotely close. Later while I was fixing her dinner she said that when she goes she doesn't want to be alone. I told her she wouldn't be. We would all be with her if anything happened. She started muttering and all I could make out was "he's my baby and he should be with me" I asked her what she was talking about and she wouldn't answer. The next day my husband told me his dad couldn't find his revolver. I told him what had happened with his mom and said maybe she took it. He told me it wouldn't be the first time she has said she would unalive herself. She's mentioned it numerous times, even before the diagnosis. Even times when he was a small child. I said I do not want to be anywhere near her until his dad finds the gun. Because it sounds to me like she wants to take my baby with her. Husband agreed. MIL went absolutely nuts when my hubs told her we would not be visiting until she gave the gun back. She claims we are being cruel and depriving her of the only joy in her life and trying to force her hand so she actually has to sh@@t herself. She actually said if she gives the gun back she will have no leverage to see the baby. What does that even mean??? But now we have her sisters and their kids calling us telling us we are monsters for keeping the baby away. We've explained our side. No one thinks she would hurt the baby. They think I'm being mean to get even because she ruined our wedding day and tried to poison me while I was postpartum. I take care of this woman most days of the week. If I wanted to "get even" I would've done it by now. She sees the baby every day for at least 6-8 hours while I'm taking care of her and her house. We have only not been around for about 3 days now. We are getting incessant calls. Two of her sisters showed up at our house this morning to yell at us. Saying we are killing her and if we don't give in and go see her it will be our faults if she kills herself. What on earth are we supposed to do? I've called our priest and he is going to visit her as soon as he can.