This is our first big disagreement since we started dating. So here's what happened. My bf(40) went out with his friends for his friends birthday. He said he'd most likely be home by 10.

Him and his friends that he drove, didn't get to wherever they were going until 9:30 so I'm like ok being home by 10 isn't happening lol

So I told him i was going to bed and I asked him to let me know when he left the place and when he got home after dropping his friends off afterward. Didn't matter if I was asleep or not cuz I'd wake up in the middle of the night anyway.

I woke up at 3 am, went to the bathroom and checked my phone. Nothing. I texted him "you make it home?" But my brain was already thinking of every bad thing that could have happened on his way home.

Laid there for an hour cuz I couldn't sleep. Checked Instagram, he hadn't posted any stories since like 11. My brain is still thinking of the bad things. I tried to sleep again but I couldn't so I stayed awake until he called me this morning to ask if we were still going to the ren faire.

I asked why he didn't text me that he was home and he kinda just blew me off about it. Said he was tired and didn't think it was a big deal. I told him I wasn't trying to keep tabs or control him, I just wanted to know he was safe since he was the one driving and it was late.

He said I was overreacting and that he shouldn’t have to check in like he's a teenager with a curfew. I tried explaining that it wasn’t about control — I literally lost sleep because I was worried something happened. He still seemed kind of dismissive and said, "Well I’m fine, so what’s the issue?"

Now I’m stuck feeling like maybe I am overreacting, but I also feel like it’s not a huge ask to send a quick “made it home” text, especially when I explicitly asked for it and he said he would.

AITA for getting upset over this?