I am a mom myself and I find it hard to believe that in the future I'd be okay with one of my children feeling the way I feel. ..neglected, forgotten, alone.....replaced?

I am a mom to several children, varying in ages from 3 years old up to 19 years old. My youngest is on the spectrum, level 2/non verbal. And I suspect that other kids are dealing with mental health issues as well. We are in the process of getting therapy/diagnosis, etc I have been married, w the same partner for 20+ years. He has always been a good provider/father. Recently, we have encountered some drastic financial changes. Life is beyond stressful. Both of our families are out of state, we are living in the southern part of US and both of us grew up in Northern US, where our families/"support network" reside My fam, growing up was idealistic, mom, dad, siblings, supportive, etc. But extremely small. However, after my dad passed from cancer things drastically changed. The family dynamic changed. It was like, my dad, was the glue that held us together, kept us in touch.

10 years or so after dad's death, mom remarried, she knew "him" from the past, decent enough man. But, I feel my mom clung onto him and his children/grandchildren. She started babysitting for his grandchildren daily, so the parents could work. And it became evident that him and his family were priority. Which at the time, I understood and encouraged. But recently, I have been in a mental, depressive spiral. I feel so alone and isolated, living hundreds of miles away. With my own marriage stress, money issues, a special needs toddler....I would hope and pray that someone would reach out to me, authentically, not just the montly superficial text "how are you"......and I ALWAYS respond honestly and with vulnerability, just to get a generic response back.

There is so much more in our past and dynamic. Things that have happened to me and was ignored when I was a child. Of course, mom has apologized for not believing me as a kid, and I've been trained, as a catholic, to forgive......

I just, want to be heard. When I text my mom that I am struggling with my day to day. Struggling with the numbing isolation that I am feeling....I expected more than "LIFE IS HARD"......."HERE ARE PHOTOS OF YOUR NEPHEW'S CONFIRMATION".

AM I WRONG?! AM I WRONG IN NEEDING MY MOM AT 40. I hope and pray my kid's don't feel like this. I want my kid's to know that if they're struggling in the smallest of ways, I'd travel to be by there side, at any age!!!. Even if I had promised my new husband's kid's that I would baby sit. F that, one of my kid's is hurting, I'm going to be there........or no.....? Idk. Am I being unreasonable?! A baby?!