so, i (25f) recently got married to my amazing husband (27m). we’ve been together for almost 3 years and decided to have a fairly small wedding, just close family and a few friends. everything was going great, but one person has totally ruined what should’ve been a perfect day — my best friend, lily (26f).

lily and i have been best friends for over 10 years. we’ve been through everything together, and i was really looking forward to having her by my side on my wedding day. however, the last couple of months leading up to the wedding, i started noticing some concerning behavior from her. she was constantly making passive-aggressive comments about my wedding planning, criticizing every choice i made, from the venue to the food. i tried to brush it off at first, thinking she was just stressed or didn’t like how things were turning out, but then things started to escalate.

the breaking point happened during the rehearsal dinner. lily started talking to my husband’s family about how she thought i was making a mistake marrying him, and how she didn’t understand why i was rushing into it. my husband was confused and hurt by her comments, and so were my parents. it was the last straw for me. i’ve never seen lily act like this, and it felt like she was intentionally trying to ruin my special day.

after the dinner, i pulled lily aside and asked her what was going on. instead of apologizing or acknowledging how out of line she was, she just told me that i was “overreacting” and that i was being “too sensitive” about the whole thing. i told her that if she didn’t start showing respect for my decisions, she wouldn’t be allowed to attend the wedding tomorrow.

she didn’t take me seriously and showed up to the ceremony anyway, causing a scene when i asked her to leave. she refused, saying she’d “been there for me through thick and thin” and that i was being “ridiculous” for kicking her out. in the end, i asked the staff to escort her off the premises. she left, but not without causing a major stir with the other guests.

now, she’s been texting me nonstop, saying i’m the worst friend ever and that i humiliated her in front of everyone. my other friends are split on whether i did the right thing or not. part of me feels guilty, but i honestly think i did what i had to do. her behavior was getting toxic, and i couldn’t let it ruin my wedding.

so, aita for kicking my best friend out of my wedding, or should i have just let it slide and dealt with it later?