Throw away account . I ( M,36) have been dating Mandy ( F,34) for 6 months . My place is closer to Mandy’s work so she sleeps at my place a few nights a week and has a key to my place. She also finishes work earlier than me so she just comes directly to my place before me. I have anxiety and I see my therapist once a month. I manage my anxiety by creating routine and schedule for myself . For example , when I come home , I first feed my cat , then wash my hands , start cooking , then start cleaning up . I don’t expect her to do anything around my house but I do expect her to put her dirty dishes in the dishwasher . When I explained this to her , she asked if I’m autistic ? I replied I didn’t think so but this is common courtesy? Even if I was autistic , I would still expect the same . She again did the same , I came home with lots of dirty dishes all over the place. I asked why she didn’t put her dirty dishes ( she uses bowls for snack and cups for drinks) in the dishwasher . She again said “there is that tism again! You really need to get tested “.

Last night , when I came home she asked me to grab a can of coke . I told her I need to feed my cat first . She yelled “ you autistic fuck! You can’t even break your routine for a can of coke ! How long are you gonna be in denial ! Just get tested!”. I told her to leave because whether I am or not is none of her business. She got mad and left. She then sent me a bunch of TikTok’s about autism and how she was trying to help me. Was an asshole ? I don’t like my house to be dirty !