I 27f and my husband Dan 29m became parents 8 weeks ago. My whole pregnancy was not easy due to placenta previa, but I managed to make it to 37weeks. Something happened during the labour that I want an outside perspective on.

When I went into labour, I called my mom and told her, and my husband called my MIL and also told her. We both agreed it would be just us at the hospital, but I was shocked to see my MIL arriving to come help. I thanked her for being there and told me and Dan agreed that it would be just us, but she said she came all the way so it would be bad to make her leave. I talked to Dan and told her that I am not comfortable with her being there but, he told me his mom is just there for support. I called my mom to drive over because the hospital has a limit of only 2 support persons in the delivery room. When my mom arrived, I discussed with the nurses that my mom and husband would be the only ones allowed in the room. I figured if I am, going to have one more person in the room, I would rather it be my mom. My MIL threw a fit saying I am excluding her form the birth of her grandchild and that I am selfish. She refused to leave and said my mom should also be sent out and that I am purposefully leaving her out. My mom to avoid problems said she would be out with her in the waiting room praying for us. Now here comes the real problem.

It was getting more intense, and I saw my Dan recording me, so I politely told him that I do not feel comfortable being recorded. Even when the nurse came to check how dilated I am he recorded it. I expressed to him that this is bothering me and that I want to labour with no cameras. He said to me, "since my mom cannot be in here, I'll videotape the whole thing for her, and she won't have to feel like she missed out." When it came time to push, Dan had his phone all over me and recording my private areas, I told the nurse to take the phone and please stop any recording, but he said I am spoiling the moment. I screamed at him to get out and that I do not like it, and a lovely RN escorted him out because he was putting stress on me.

When we were taken to recovery after birth, Dan did not bother showing up and only came after hourssss of me calling him. He called me selfish and said I excluded him from the birth of his son and excluded his mom and that they are both very hurt. His mom said that she has always wanted to witness a birth and that this is her only son, and I ruined the moment of her grandchild being born. I expressed how frustrated I felt being recorded and Dan not considering me. They both stormed out of the hospital room.

I am currently living with my parents because Dan has not come around, he has tried to get our son to sleepover but since I am exclusively breastfed he cannot. (our son had some trouble latching during the first 2 weeks and we are still getting the hang of it. I do not want him to get used to the bottle). I have talked to Dan about me moving back to our house, but he said there is a lot we need to deal with first.

(btw I'm in my parents' house because when we were discharged Dan did not pick us up. He has not seen our son in a while now and does not bother to check up on us.) My dad did go by to the house to talk to him 'man to man' but he was not home. I hope we will be able to fix things because before all this he was a pretty decent husband.

AITA for kicking my husband and MIL out of the delivery room.