I, 47F, let my mother, 63F, move in with me 2 yrs ago. She was kicked out of her friend’s house where she had lived for 7 yrs. They had a disagreement.
She told me when she moved in, it would be 2-3 weeks and she would make arrangements to find a place to live. That never happened. She would say she was “moving in a month” but then never mention it again and continue with her daily life. She buys her own food and cooks for herself. I buy all toiletries, paper products, and cleaning supplies. She does not cook or clean for me. She cleans her room but rarely the rest of the house. She pays for nothing. No rent. No utilities. No tv or internet subscriptions. I recently got married and am planning on selling my house. I have reservations about her continuing to live her while trying to sell it. She smokes (not in the house) and is off during the week. I don’t want potential buyers viewing my house and having to coordinate her leaving. Plus she cleans nothing except her room and dishes. I clean her bathroom. I don’t want her moving with me to my new husband’s house. She abandoned my sister and I several times growing up. This was very hurtful but made us into strong, responsible adults. I feel I have been very patient. I told her 3 months ago about my plans to sell my house and move to my husband’s house. I told her she would need to figure things out for herself. She’s done nothing. What do I do?