My(31F) partner (30M) and I are on pretty opposite ends of the spectrum when it comes to politics to the point where I had to ask him to just not bring up politics anymore in our conversations, because it never goes well. This particular topic has been brought up so many times though, I can't help but roll my eyes when it comes up.

My partner started talking about the LGBTQ+ community and it started off okay, but then he asked, "If it's describing the spectrum of sexuality, why isn't there an S for straight in there?" I didn't know how to respond to this, because I seriously thought he was kidding. Everyone has to know this right? It's the same reason why there's holidays dedicated to certain ethnicities, and why there are parades for the oppressed/minority communities.

So then he goes, "I'm serious. Why not? I feel like it would only be fair. Labeling and then leaving out groups of people breeds hatred towards that group of people. I feel like now as a 'white, Christian, middle class, male' everyone is now mad at me and looking at me like I'm evil without giving me a chance.' That's not really fair."

This is when I scoffed. It was honestly a reaction I wasn't intending on making. I was just baffled. I said, "You're really complaining about being privileged right now?"

Him: "I can't even express my opinion, because I'm a white male and I get judged when I do. I'm not allowed to have an opinion on abortion, because I'm not a female. I'm not allowed to have an opinion on anything racial, because I'm white..." and he starts crying.

At this point I'm holding back feelings of "what the f**k" and I say, "This is like the argument of 'all lives matter' vs 'black lives matter' and it's pretty pathetic. You aren't oppressed. People aren't actively hating you. You have it in your mind that people do, but have you ever experienced ACTIVE hate? No. You haven't. It's pathetic to be crying here right now."

He went off for a few seconds, before I told him to calmly stop raising his voice at me because my son was in the other room. He said "Then stop being a bitch." I'm not offended by it at all, but I do feel bad if I was genuinely being that way.

I don't want my partner to feel like he can't talk to me, but I also don't feel like I'm wrong in my feelings that complaining about being a part of the privileged community is kind of...off? Especially right now in this political climate.

So, AITAH? If I am, how do I get through these conversations without getting upset? I don't know how to explain what I thought was "common sense".