I (26M) want to tell my colleague (24F) that I am falling in love with her. We talk daily, text, phone calls, company slack, etc…. She’s in a relationship (22M if that matters) and has been for about a year and a half. They just started couples therapy (her suggestion) and she told me she hopes and thinks it will work. One of her main issues is her acts of service not being recognized, and that her boyfriend says she is not as physical or intimate enough, as well as not having a mature attitude about finances. They met on a hookup so I know the physical intimacy was probably an initial catalyst.

Our frequency of talking paired with how we talk (teasing and flirting, admitting we were thinking about the other, hours long phone calls, deep sustained eye contact, joking about future vacations) really makes me feel valid for developing deep feelings for her. Based on what she’s shared about her current partner, he would most likely be jealous with our frequency of communication and topics we talk about, for example she told me a story about one of her exs that there is no way she would ever share with him.

Our love languages are the same, like exactly the same, our personalities align extremely well (she laughs at everything I say) and obviously she’s gorgeous. I would wait for her but I also want to protect myself. Should I take the leap of faith and confess how I truly feel? My fear is that I miss an opportunity to be with a woman like her, but I also fear cornering her. Would it make me an overbearing asshole?