There must be something wrong with me (27 F). It is starting to feel like my Dad (56 M) and sister (30 F) have abandoned me. It feels more closely like they are punishing me. In 2021, I had to move to a new state for my safety. My mom (52 F) came to visit me because I had been SAed. My mom was the only one who stepped up, and before that point we were estranged. We did not have a good relationship because of a very nasty and heart breaking divorce. She left, ignored me for years, and I have given up on my mom. My dad and sister were the only ones I felt like I could count on until my SA incident. They didn't step up, and my mom came to visit, but took it upon herself to tell them what happened to me (which I hated because it was not her story to tell and she didn't ask me if she could). I had turned mute, I was on disability, and the only one who was there was the woman who I had hated for more than half a decade. 

Three months had passed by at this point and I wasn't much better, I still was not able to live on my own, but my mom had to go back home to Colorado. My dad and sister were not there for me during, and didn't show any interest in helping, so I went with my mom. I had many incidents where I lived before, and I didn't feel safe anywhere anymore, so I left.

Over the passed four years, things felt different between me, my dad and my sister. Fast forward to the first week of April, I work multiple jobs to pay the bills so my partner (28 M) and I have a home. I was working on my sisters birthday, and it was a work day where we were rushing to get the whole store clean and up to code because corporate was coming within thew next couple days and there have been talk about one of the store locations in my town closing down. So I worked super late into the night to make sure that location would not be us.

I get home at about 11, exhausted and starving. I took some time to eat, by the time I go to try to call my sister to wish her happy birthday, I realize it would be 2am her time, and I didn't want to wake her and her family (she has a toddler so I knew this was extra off limits). I sent her a happy birthday text and asked her to call me next time she is free. Six days go by and not a call or an answer when I call.

The reason why this is getting to me is because I always try to reach out and remind them that im still here. I message them often in the mornings telling them "Good morning! I love you!", but I rarely ever get messaged first. I do this thing every once in a while where I don't message that for days or a week to see if they would ever do it for me. They only did it once.

Another thing that had gotten to me is that apparently, my cousin on my dads side had finally visited - after all the time I lived there and the fact I haven't seen them since I was 11 (27 now), they finally visit. No one called me, no one told me or face timed me. I felt shut out. I never feel included anymore. I constantly feel like I'm on the outside, and I feel this happened because I went with my mom.

For years now, I have felt this way. For all the time I've been here, I felt like I'm being punished for having to leave my home and go with the one person who betrayed our entire family. All because and Ex decided he wasn't done with me. It hurts, and I feel like it's my fault. None of my family anywhere wants me, and im just trying my best. Is it just me? I used to be so close with my family. My sister and I used to talk and hang out everyday. My dad and I would have lunch every week. I know they meet with each other every week, and I've voiced I would like to be included and FaceTime with them, but none of them every really reach out to me, unless my sister wants something. It feels like they now see me as some estranged family. I know them very well, and I know they can be sensitive and emotional, so it's very possible that they say to each other "she's just like her mother" behind my back, which I know is a hurtful insult to them. All I ever wanted was my family to stay together. Iv'e tried for years to heal everyone, but they are always so quick to abandon each other, and now it feels like everyone has abandoned me for loving all of my family members. My mom pushed me away, my sister doesn't answer my calls, and my dad never calls me. I feel like they hate me for having to leave.

Am I being ridiculous? AITAH for not calling my sister on her birthday?