My (m31) gf of 5 years (f42) is upset because an old female friend (f30) was on my YouTube family plan along with 9 other people. Been on there for 3 years or so and she is just finding out.

Full transparency, my gf asked me not to speak to her or any women really anymore in the beginning of our relationship because she doesnt feel comfortable with me having female friends. She has been cheated on in the past. She offered to also delete all of her exes and extra guys off social media in return.

I have NEVER seen this girl in person, she is happily married with two kids and lives in a different state. I've never flirted with her, never had intentions on anything like that. I'm friends with her husband and cousin. We met when I was in college through her cousin who I'd play routinely on call of duty. I also have guy friends from gaming from back then.

For a while I relented and stopped all communication. It hurt because its very difficult for me to form friendships so the few i have i enjoy and because i wanted to avoid drama in a relationship I was trying to seriously pursue. Sometime later she reached out to make sure I was okay and i told her about how my gf felt. She wasnt happy but she respected the boundaries and we didnt speak again until year after, while i was in the midst of finding out that my gf was still talking to 3 guys she slept with and one of them worked at the job we worked at together. This guy was twice my age, married, and i had seen them alone in private offices enough to bring it up to her. Another one lived a few blocks away.

Me and my gf decided to work through things and my friend helped me out in that time and we began speaking again, maybe 2 or 3 times a year. Nothing inappropriate. During one of those interactions we spoke about our children and certain shows they watch and youtube came up. I have the family plan because i shared with my sister and her kids and my buddy and his kids. I offerered up a slot for her daughters, she took it. 3 years later, my gf finds out and is livid and crying about how I betrayed her and that i must be in love with her because i wont let her go.

AITAH?