English is not my first language, please bear with me :). Quick post, made an account for this. I feel stupid about it, but it's just been bothering me a lot, I feel like I have to let it out somewhere. I, 27M have a boyfriend 36M. We'll call my boyfriend B. We have a pretty good relationship, and have been together for about 2 years now. I've always been a bit of a germaphobe, and I struggle with some anxiety around it. B knows this, and has never had any issue with washing his hands extra, helping me clean around the house, not sharing straws/untensils, just little things like that. And I usually feel comfortable enough with him to not be constantly worried about things. One thing that I've always asked B to do is to take his shoes off and leave them outside by the door on the porch, or at least right in the entryway as soon as he gets home. He's never complained or said anything about it once, as soon as he gets home he always leaves his shoes and jacket at the door, and always takes a shower and changes out of his work clothes. B works a pretty physical labor job, he's on his feet and outside a lot so he usually comes home pretty dirty. Here's where the actual problem is, yesterday, when I got home from work I cleaned a few things around the house, and I mopped the floors and vacuumed in the rooms with carpet. As soon as B got home, I heard him walking around the house, with his shoes on. It sounds kind of dumb, but it bothered me right away. As soon as I saw him, I already started to feel irritated, and I could tell he wasn't in a good mood either, but still, I was upset about him. Not only was annoyed because he had left dirt on the floor that was still wet because I had just mopped, but I felt grossed out. The amount of germs on shoes is disgusting, and I've always hated wearing them inside of the house. I asked him why he didn't take his shoes off like he usualy does, and yes, I'll admit my tone was pretty harsh. I was expecting him to apologize, or at the very least give me an explanation and take his damn shoes off, but this when things got worse. I don't even member exactly what he said, I was already feeling really shitty at the moment. But he pretty much told me that it was his house too, and that he could do whatever the hell he wanted. He had never spoken to me to harshly before, I was kind of stunned for a while before I started to cry. I asked him to take off his shoes and clean up the mess he had left on the floor. I know i was being pretty dramatic, but I was just feeling overwhelmed with everything. Instead of comforting me like he usually would, he told me to get over it and that he would clean it up later. I didn't say anything, I just tried to calm myself down for a while, taking a few deep breaths. I asked him again, to take off his shoes, I told him I'd clean the mess, I just needed him to take his shoes off. He was honestly a total prick about it, he told me to stop being such a neurotic freak, and that he was tired of always having to cater to me. It hurt, a lot. I know my anxiety is a lot to deal with, but he had never had a problem with it. I never ask him to comfort me or even to help me around the house, he just offers to do it. Whenever I do ask him to do something, he's never had a problem with it, so I honestly don't even know where this is coming from. We both stayed silent after that, and I headed to the guest bedroom to sleep in there. Now, today, when I woke up this morning, the floor was clean again, and his shoes were by the door where they usually were. He was already up making breakfast, but when he told me good morning and tried to touch me, I pulled away. I didnt feel like talking to him at all. he kept apologizing and telling me he didn't mean it but I just told him that I need some space. Now, he's mad again because he says I'm avoiding him even though it wasn't a big deal. I'm feeling stressed about the whole thing, and maybe I was just being over dramatic, but they way he reacted is what hurt me the most. AITAH?