📝 AITAH for letting a man flirt with me?

By Ordinary_Morning_960 • Score: 1 • April 6, 2025 9:28 PM


A few weeks ago I got into a fight with my boyfriend. Basically my ex was kind of dissing me and since we go to the same university and often run into each other there I decided to confront him, just to make things clear, because I thought we were in good terms; my boyfriend got very mad at the thought of me speaking to my ex, even if it was just to straighten things out. When I told him what I wanted to do he got extremely mad and started to send me aggressive text, only to then stop responding altogether. I asked him if he was breaking up with me and he didn't give me an answer. Days passed and he didn't respond; after about three or four days I went for a trip with my friend to Tenerife. While there, I tried calling him several times, also saying that I still believed in us, and still no answer. It was not the first time that he stopped communication with me but usually he would at least answer some of my text, or tell me that he needed time to think. On the last day of our trip me and my friend went out and a guy started flirting with me. I knew I didn't want to do anything with him, we were planning to go back to the AirBnb shortly after, but I did let him flirt with him and I didn't say anything about my boyfriend, partly because I didn't know if he was still my boyfriend, partly because - I admit - the attention felt nice. Nothing happened of course. When I got home after a few days my boyfriend finally decided to call me back, after I begged him to do so, and he broke up with me over the phone (mind you- we were together for a year and a half). After a few hours however he changed his mind, told me he still loved me and wanted to meet with me to make up. Two days later I went to his house and at night I told him about the guy in Tenerife, and he got mad at me again and broke up with me, calling me all sorts of names. It's been almost a month, I've begged him many times to come back and make up as I still love him deeply and really had no intentions of sleeping with someone else, but he said I broke his trust forever and now I disgust him. He's always been a very insecure and jealous guy and I am very aware of this, and I admit I was also sometimes very difficult to deal with in the relationship but I can't help but think that if he communicated properly with me things would have been way different.

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