Hello everyone! I know my last post got some traction and I thought that maybe a happy ending update was due.

I broke up with my bf last night. It was very amicable and while I'm still sad, I've been able to do a lot of reflection on our relationship and why I felt the way I did. We're on really good terms so the plan is for me to move into the other bedroom until our lease ends and we'll go our separate ways. At first I thought we could maybe renew the lease together, but that feels 1) selfish and 2) I know I won't be able to fully move on and be at peace until we're not seeing eachother everyday.

I think me being really picky about his sleeping habits was me trying to find an excuse that felt "valid" to break up with him over. At that point I kind of made up my mind that I wanted to break up, but felt like I still needed a reason to do so. All those romance movies and watching my friends' relationships made me feel like there needed to be a huge argument or something. The truth is, I recognized we wouldn't be compatible in the long term.

We both have ADHD, but we both handle it differently and as a result the things that made us not compatible are directly tied to many ADHD symptoms. He's the type to push important things off for as long as possible while I'm the type to do those important things right away so I don't forget them. I know now that I simply don't have the patience to feel like I'm constantly pushing someone.

Another issue is the fact that he wasn't sure about kids. I know for a fact that I want kids in the future, but I wasn't going to try and push someone to want kids if they're not sure about having them.

This whole thing has been one of those wow I'm actually an adult who can be mature about things moment. Even if I wasn't approaching the situation very maturely at first lol. Part of me still wants that big reaction from him because that's what I'm used to. Another part of me is so happy we met, dated, and broke up on good terms. Helps me understand that I can pick good people to date tbh. Had a few things been different I think we would've gotten married in the future.

Thanks for everyone who commented on my previous post. Everyone who supported me gave me courage to do what needed to be done. Everyone who criticized me helped me reflect on why I getting annoyed and the true reason why I wanted to break up.