By tiramisuuiu • Score: 131 • April 4, 2025 8:44 AM
So basically I (17f) don't particularly have a good relationship with my dad. Neither does my mom nor any one. He is always been a bit problematic. He likes to make fun of others but can't take it when the joke's on him.
I have a cousin(18f). She is conventionally attractive. I, well, am not so bad myself. But I've always been the one to focus on studies and other stuff. My cousin, on the other hand, spends practically the whole day on her phone and looking at herself in front of the mirror.
Despite my academic achievements being better than not only my cousins but also getting top grades in school, my dad always points out how I look like a "fatty" beside her. He never appreciates my achievements and downplays them. In fact, when I was only 13, he admitted in front of all our relatives and my cousin, that I'm "not good looking at all". I've always studied hard and gotten good marks in hopes of his approval but instead, I would be told that " no guy will love me because of my appearance. "
I'm not really skinny but I'm not overweight either. I have a normal weight and I get compliments about my looks often. Infact, yesterday a lady came up to my mom and told my mother, "your daughter's really pretty". She saw me when I was a kid. I'll admit I'm not the type to turn heads everywhere I go or " jaw dropping gorgeous". But it would have been nice if my own father thought I was atleast "okay".
Now my dad has a job which doesn't really pay him monthly but after a few months. His income nowadays isn't even that good because of certain ongoing issues in the place here he works. My cousin sister's father, on the other hand, has a great income compared to him. My dad kind of hates him because they've had some issues in the past.
Yesterday, my mother and I came back home after some shopping. When I was trying out the accessories and makeup that I bought, he said, " so you're trying imitate your cousin to look pretty? " I replied with "Yes atleast I can imitate that but you won't be able to imitate her dad's income."
He lost his temper and started shouting about how he has a really respectable job despite the low income and that her dad's nowhere near him and blah blah blah.
My mother thinks what I did was well deserved but the way he's been acting ever since yesterday makes me feel like shit. So AITAH for making fun of my dad's income?
Edit: I've tried talking to him before multiple times about how much it hurts me. Despite knowing that, he continues to compare me.
Edit : My dad used to spend most of his money on his alcohol addiction when I was a kid. He can easily get a job with a much better income but he chooses not to because he doesn't want to leave the comfort of his current one which doesn't require him to do much work and therefore the low income. I'm not making fun of any profession. It was my response because I was honestly hurt and tired.
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