📝 AITAH for missing my best friends birthday after my mental breakdown

By beetea9865 • Score: 0 • April 17, 2025 10:16 PM


(Im dyslexic so please ignore any grammer miss takes) this happened last year and I've still haven't got over this, so me (19f) and my best friend (18f) have been friends since childhood. For context last year I was suffering alot as I am transgender and my family weren't the best people to tell so sadly I use to self harm, in secret. It got to a point where I attempted suicide but my mother found me, and took me to the hospital where the flushed my stomach, and the doctor recommended that the best option for me was therapy so I decided to go, and my therapist telling me to just tell my parents I was trans as it was effecting my life really badly, so i did and my mom reluctantly expected me, but my step father was a little more hesitant. So a week before summer break I told my best friend that I was trans and that I've been struggling that i was going to take the summer break off for my recovery and she totally agree with me. So I didn't feel bad I made sure to tell her that I would have to miss her birthday every day, for the last week and on multiple occasions she told he "thats totally ok and that all that matters Is my mental health" so role around the summer break I started transitioning and it went well, I had a break from the internet and had time to recover from my depression, and come the time to go back to school, the first day people where existed see me as I did make a post talking about being transgender and I can't wait to see everyone again. So i excitedly i started looking for my best friend and i cant find her anywhere; at this point I've turn the school on its head looking for her so i Chalk it up to her being fashionly last as always but. Coming up to lunch and I still haven't seen my best friend so I call her and the call didn't go through; i decided to call her of another friends phone she picks up (for context she's a very clean person she has never drank or smoked before this)smoking with her new boyfriend one of are pryer class mates, as he got kick out also know as the "homo hater". Confused I ask what is he doing with u, and being every tonguey with me says "he has treated me better then u ever could" at this point I was so confused still rambling before blurting "it's because u missed my birthday bitch" as she ends the call on me, wondering why she did this I went to her house after school(as i have to walk past her house to get to school) walking up to the the door i can see her forehead, peaking throw the window making sure i dont look over, i knock and her mother answered I ask where my best friend her mother says didn't she go to school? Confused how she doesn't know like I didn't just see her. Saying no she just shrugged and closed the door. Honestly wondering why she's acting like this I just went home. To get a knock on my door two hours later it's my best friend, I make sure I step outside with her as idk what her intentions are, and we break out in to a screaming match she's talking how "I never cared about her", how I'm "so quick to dump her so I can do something better with my life" so after this she storms on home I go back inside, after a week I apologise as I felt bad for screaming at her and we've gone back to normal Friends now, but she still occasionally brings it up and I'm starting to think it's effecting are relationship so AITAH?

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