We have been friends since childhood and have a good relationship, but there is one thing that pisses me off all the time.

My friend is not responsible for his life and finances and constantly resorts to my help.

I don't mind to help him, but when I see that he starts wasting money, drinking and having fun, relying on the fact that then I will help him out until the paycheck, it tunes me out. I'm helping him to degrade in this way and I don't let him realize what responsibility is.

And then he decided to get married. Everything seems fine, but they're planning a wedding they can't afford. I know his budget can't afford it, and it's not necessary. Plus he had a mishap at work that affected his budget. I advised him to postpone the wedding a bit or make it more modest.

He said it's fine and he's gonna fix it. And you know how he wants to fix it?

Today he called me and said: "Well, you will help me out and borrow money for the wedding, and after the wedding I will pay you back immediately!

At this time my wife and I have planned to buy a new car and I explain to him that I will not be able to help you because I will not have the opportunity. And he said, "I'm depending on you, buddy. That is, he does not care what we will do with my family, but it is important that his wedding was a success, although he can not provide it.

Please judge and advise me how to act in this situation? On the one hand I value our friendship, but on the other hand it looks like a banal exploitation of my good attitude.