I REALLY NEED ADVISE I FEEL LIKE IM CRAZY A BIT !

Me and my best friend have a really close relationship. We literally talk everyday and laugh everyday together. For context I want to tell you about her Birthday so you can understand me a little more. On her birthday her and I were both living with my parents. And she planned a trip to Atlanta with me and her close family . So on the night (Friday) before our planned trip , she wanted to go out. To which I was hesitant because I would have to find someone to watch my 1 year old son because his dad (my husband works 3rd) and Im very particular about people watching him. She went and asked my mom to watch him in the evening to and I really didn't want her to cause I could tell he was starting not to feel well. When I told her I really didnt want to go because we didnt plan this ahead of time so Im asking my mom to watch him last minute and I can tell he's starting not to feel well. I could tell she visibly had an attitude and start treating me weird and also said " well if you dont want to you dont have to" in a rude way. My mom then tried to pressure me to go out saying he will be fine, and I told her I didn't want to as well as I was starting to feel ill so I need some rest too. Even though she had an attitude I didnt take it personal. I went to bed with my son. And if you guessed the next day we woke up with a fever , you guessed right! We were both sick and eventually found out we had Covid and I had Covid and Strep, so I felt horrible. My plans to go on the Atlanta trip were cancelled to say the least. I apologized multiple times and said I really didnt want this to happen. She was disappointed but she understood. what ended up happening is her family basically ruined her trip to Atlanta they all said they really didnt want to go even though it was planned. so she told them can we just go to eat and a movie, but they argued the whole time and went everywhere they wanted to go cause her sister was driving. She came back to the house crying from the argument and I talked to her for about 45 minutes and said we could go to a movie and out to eat as it was Saturday and my husband was home to watch my son cause he was off. So despite me feeling like complete crap I still cheered her up and went out and tried to make her feel special! On the next day a Sunday the actual day of her birthday I literally chased her around the house all morning saying Happy Birthday and was so excited . I didnt have any gifts because I had just wrecked mine and my husbands car so we were struggling to get a new car. But I let her know how much I cared about her birthday. Fast forward to my birthday , the night before I broke and dropped my phone so we didnt speak much. I texted her a 7:48 am from my laptop and told her I broke my phone but I was messaging from my laptop. I didnt hear anything from her until 8 oclock at night not a happy birthday or anything. We had plans to go eat on my birthday but my son was sick so I decided to stay home. I was going to tell her that when she texted me. But she never did , until 8pm even then she said what happened to your phone, and I said I broke it. She tried to call but I was upset she went all day without saying anything so I ignored it. She then texted "its your birthday I tried calling and no ones answering" Idk if my husbands phone was dead or not. but I see no calls or text from her. But regardless she knew I could get text on my laptop but she didnt say anything until 8pm. The next day she popped up at my house with gifts randomly, and I basically texted her and told her how I need space after her not showing up for me on my birthday. she didnt apologize , she just said "she got into a big argument and had rehearsal so She hopes Im not mad because of that" And I reiterated I need space and for her to return the gifts because I never asked for anything and I would rather her keep the money. She basically is saying she doesnt understand why that would bother me and why I wouldn't take the gifts. Ive never been a gift person and thats never mattered to me and she knows that. but waiting to show up for me last minute does ! and also my birthday was a wreck for many reasons not just because of that. but it defintley added a sting . I maybe wrong because she is one of the most consistent people in my life and she does always show up for my birthday for the most part, one year she did forget. But this year i guess it just wasn't important just to tell me Happy Birthday when she saw my message. I guess she thought I wouldnt care but I did. It hurts that when I have feelings it its not understood but when she had an attitude on her birthday I didnt take it personal or hold it against her. Please give honest advice so I can know what to do next