Basically I (f34) am married to a man (f35) who has a daughter (4) and shares costudy with his ex wife. The girl stays with us one week and one week with her mother. Now, I have to say that her mother never really liked me, since we met she was making little comments that made me uncomfortable and made sure I know how she feels about me.

So for about 2 months now, the little girl, whenever she would stay with us she wanted to sleep on our bed. Her dad allows her and I have no problem with it so whatever. I was never really good with kids, I feel awkward because I don't know how to act and I was very worried how would I get along with the girl. Once I started caressing her leg so she would fall asleep faster and since then she wants me to do it every time. When I say caressing I mean like soft tickle, like petting? I don't know the word for it honestly, but IT'S NOT, IN ANY WAY SEXUAL. Her dad is always there laying next to us so it's not even like I'm alone with her or something.

I guess she told her mom about this, which I thought wouldn't be a problem, but she came last week and waited for me to come back from work in front of the house and then made a huge scene, yelling at me calling me a pedophile and saying how I'm trying to groom her daughter. She was yelling in front of the house and said how she's going to tell HER husnand , talking about her ex husband, my husband. It hurt me so much because I thought I was finally bonding with my supposedly stepdaughter and I just really wanted her to like me. I told my husband right away and he called her and yelled at her and told her how big these accusations are and she just decided to let it go.

Now last week, when the girl was staying with us she wanted to sleep on bed and wanted me to pet her leg but I told her I can't do that anymore. She was sad about it and asked me do I not like her anymore. My husband told me I can't punish her for something her mom did but I'm not trying to punish her I just don't want to do it after this. Am I being unreasonable?