Female 28 and my partner John 33. I met John when he was in a bad place he was using and I had no idea and there was some red flags and I choose to ignore them.. John lived in Arizona and i was visiting family when I met him, I live in Utah. When I met John we hit it off and continued talking after a couple months John and I waited and he met my kids and I met his and we got along and we started dating, now my dad is on dialysis and we visit him often which is when i would also make some time for John, my brother and I traveled back and forth for almost a year. In the beginning John started showing weird signs for example he’d ask me why are you and your brother so close ? And why are you two always together. At the time I didn’t think much of it but he began insinuating that I was messing with my brother ! And It caught me off guard at this time I got upset and we argued he does not have sisters and said to him it was off . I explained we are just closed and moved on { SHOULD HAVE RAN } At this time I did not know he was using. A couple months go by and he began accusing me of cheating and lying about what I was doing noted I worked from 3:30 to 12 pm he believed I was doing something because I would not answer during those times I would call him on lunch and breaks and it would be mostly arguing about who I was with ( I’m a loner I don’t really make friends at work ) he would FaceTime me to check who was around me and check what I was doing when I was off he would call and check my location every time I would stop at a red light he would call via FaceTime to check what I was doing.

I’d have to show him my back seats so he could see I wasn’t hiding anyone in my car and this happened a lot of times while I was home he would do this as well wanting to check my room to see who was there and not a single time have I failed to show him and this was only times we were long distance when we’d see each other it was great no problems nothing so I believed it was just an insecurity issue I tried my best to keep him reassured yet nothing helped close to our year of dating I found out he was using, we talked and to see what the best thing would be for him he was having issues at home with his family so we decided that it would be better if he moved here and get himself clean.

During the first couple months, it was challenging and we had times where he just felt really sick and he had shakes due to the detox, but eventually he got better. John was working. I was working, but we still had that insecurity problem. I had talked to a coworker of mine who Experienced the same thing and she advised that I just had to give him time that it was gonna be hard because he was getting clean so I stuck it out. I tried my best to be there for him and try to keep him reassured that I wasn’t doing anything, but that didn’t stop. Our fights became more intense with time Fast forward to a couple of months I ended up getting a new job where the pay was better and it was just a better suited place for me after a couple months of being at this job. He believed that I was messing with my manager that he ended up texting my manager regarding a heart. that manger had hearted my message that I was coming in late and to John, he believed he was coming on to me I continuously apologize to my manager regarding John’s actions. A couple months in John continues to be aggressive and continues to accuse me of being a cheater he’s continuously being disrespectful and calls me all sorts of names .

We’ve been having a lot of issues and now I just don’t care anymore I don’t care if he leaves I don’t care how he feels anymore I just don’t care .. I feel so drained out and it’s become so toxic where he thinks the way he acts is ok and I just don’t care to be in a relationship anymore .. Ive had enough of it