I(M28) am in relationship with Liz (F24) for almost five months now. Within the last few weeks, we have been fighting nonstop with this issue of me having friendships with other females.

I met Liz last year at my workplace. She was a new hire and I basically guided her through the ropes and settled in, kind of. She seemed really sweet. we chatted along, exchanged info, and the more I talked to her, the more I began to like her. Then I held back from asking her out since I was freshly out of a long-term relationship, and I did not want to throw myself right back into it. Three months passed after that, and, again, I was basically falling in love with her by the day. She was kind, caring, and friendly with our coworkers, but then one day, she told me she liked me, and we went official.

And that is when the trouble began. I've been working at the company for almost four years now, and a good number of my female colleagues have been there as long as me long. I have cemented some real friendships with those girls. It's not uncommon for us to pop over each other's houses every now and then. Some are married, in which case, I have had good relations with their husbands, too.

But Liz just complains that I am "too-close" with them and that it's unhealthy. She'd be upset whenever I was on the phone with one of my friends back home, and she would ignore me.

The other day my coworker gave me an awkward side hug to say good bye.On our way home from work,  Liz had stopped talking to me. When I pressed her to tell me what was wrong, she exploded, yelling that I should go f**k myself.

And yesterday I was on the phone with this childhood friend of mine, let's just call her T(F29). T almost talks to me every day since she stays across countries. all we usually do is check up on one another and talk about our daily lives. I’ve told T how I felt about Liz before we started dating and even introduced them to one another.

As soon as I hung up with T, Liz started yelling at me again. She was saying how talking to T every day was unhealthy and questioning why I even needed to speak with T that much. I told Liz that I could try to reduce T talks if it put her in discomfort. But Liz insisted that I cut T completely from my life. I told her that was impossible,  T was there for me when I was homeless. She took me into her home and took care of me until I got back on my feet. I owe her so much, and Liz knows this. In fact, Liz has said before that T seemed like a very nice woman.

So I was willing to set some clearer boundaries if that would help her feel more comfortable. Liz didn’t accept that. She left.

Now, I honestly don’t know what I’m supposed to do. I’ve never faced an issue like this in a relationship before. My ex loved T, was close friends with her, and had no problem with my female coworkers. she even befriended some of them. I also don’t mind Liz having male friends as I think as adults we can have both romantic relationships and friendships. she has a childhood friend herself, and I’ve never complained about him.

So, Reddit did I do something wrong? And if so, how can I fix this?