I've been with my partner for over 5 years. For the last 8 months my mum has had cancer and going through chemotherapy so it's obviously been a hard time.

Due to this I've been visiting my mother more than usual and going to appointments etc with her. She lives in another town so the visits tend to be on weekends.

This has meant my gf and I have had less dates etc. we've still had dates and nights away etc just not as many.

Last week my mum passed away so I obviously haven't wanted to do anything. I've asked my gf to watch a tv show with me that I used to watch with my mum. We watched one episode then she said she was bored and wanted to choose something for us to do.

I asked if we could just keep watching since it would make me feel a bit better and tvat once I start improving, we'll do a lot of things she wants to do.

She refused this and said I was being selfish by only wanting to do things I choose. I explained again why I wanted this but she just again said we should be doing things she wants.

I told her to have some empathy since I need support and she's only thinking of herself. She said I wasn't being fair and that it's selfish of me to only want to do things that I choose.

I asked her if she seriously didn't get why I'd want to do things tvat remind me of my mum but she just said afain I should be fine doing things she chooses.

AITAH for not doing things my girlfriend wants while I'm grieving?