So im 22m and i cant stand my moms boyfriend! So ill to try and condense this as much as possible. My mom has been messing with this guy on & off For the last 15 plus years. Throughout the most part of the 15 years he has put my mom through hell. Arguing, fighting, made her cry, getting locked up ect .And just not being the man i know my mom deserves.

Now ive never had a problem who is a person, but i have a problem with who is as my moms lover..or whatever. So about a couple years ago(2019-2022) My mom and i are living in a apartment together. Everything this fine till he starts coming around and He when he comes over…he doesn’t clean up behind himself, eats all the food and smokes weed in the house…and just in and out the house….

Mind you I rarely speak to him cause he never actually puts forth the effort to ever speak or get to know me so..fuck it…(im gay) One particular incident at that time i was home by myself cleaning and washing clothes for work and im on the phone…and i had one what we call now” hoochie daddy shorts “on and he comes through the door. Proceeds to scrunch his face up then go into my moms room and not speak. Hours later my moms comes in and starts carrying on about how he was uncomfortable….fucker!! you don’t speak to me, eat all the food that you don’t pay for, fuck my mom and don’t ever really acknowledge me but claim your uncomfortable?!?

So fast forward maybe about 2 or so years ago My mom and him takes a break or whatever.. He is off up underneath some other bitch While he does him. she moves into one of the family owned houses. And then here he come crying in the middle of the night begging her to get back with him . Unbeknownst to me at the time cause I decided to live with my grandparents..so then my moms is like com move in the house is ready ..ok cool. First night i pull up his car is parked out front! I didn’t even go i went back to my grandparents. Fast forward my mom lets him come back and i move in….

This getting long so imma name off shit since he came back - leaving shit marks in the toilet and not cleaning it -asking my mom to cook large meals but doesn’t like leftovers( didn’t pay for the food -Puts my mom out the car cause he was keeping in contact with bm -Was unemployed for months while me and mom worked -Mom actively helped him get a job because he didn’t know how - Tried to smoke weed in the house again -Lies about buying expensive jewelry even though he is broke -my mom buy him clothes and sneakers constantly (But hasn’t bought me sneakers since 2021) ..

So here is recently Im cooking dinner for myself and i here my say “hey clean the bathroom cause x,y,z” he proceeded to say i didn’t even use the bathroom in here she says yes you did…then he starts raising his voice “i got no privacy round this bitch!” I was going to go up there with my knife and start letting him have because…who tf are talking to?!

I had to calm down when I did and when he eventually came down the stairs I said “ idc what was going on arguing or whatever the case may be but don’t talk to my mom like that again.. thanks i appreciate it” (calmly as i could knife in hand) he says ok and walks off ..so a couple weeks go by i have intentionally avoided my mom and him .But the other day i went up to him and said “look.. I’m just being protective of her its not that im actively trying to not like you but you gotta understand where im coming from.”

He then says “I’ve always tried to be and give the most up right respect.” “But the way you spoke to me..yea you kinda played ya hand!” You don’t like me or whatever so lets not talk!” Now apart of me feels like he’s still in the wrong And i have every reason to be upset but apart of me feels a twinge or guilt…what do you think

Me and my mom have conversations about him and his behavior and how she deserves better and how i don’t like how she enables him she claims she will end it once she runs his pockets since he has a job now but still