I (17F) am dating Madison (17F) and we have been for 9 months. No one has known. We did get walked in on while kissing by my best friend at the time Hanna (17F). She immediately walked out and I saw her back turned walking away. She went back downstairs and told our other friend in the group, Maddox (17F). I went downstairs and Madison stayed upstairs and I started to talk to them. They didn't bring it up and I didn't either. We the went to breakfast and everything seemed normal. Everyone went home and an hour or two later Hanna called me with Maddox. They confronted me and we talked about it. I apologized and we agreed that it wouldn't leave the group and we would move on. However, Madison was never apart of this conversation and they said they didn't want to confront her because they didn't trust her and they just sent her one text. Anyways we kept hanging out and we started dating but we didn't tell anyone. Nothing ever happened again other than we would occasionally cuddle when we were there. Hanna would always give us dirty looks but never said anything. About 2 months ago me and Madison were having a bit of a rough time and I was texting my other friend, Sara (16F) and I was telling her about our situation. I accidentally sent a text to Hanna saying "she doesn't want to hang out with me". Hanna asked who. I said no one and I sent that to the wrong person. The next day she wouldn't respond to me and she kept half swiping me and eventually she told me we needed to talk in person. She removed me from one of her private stories and posted on a more public one that she was having the worst day ever. I figured it was because of me. She then came over to my house and started sobbing as soon as she stepped inside. She said how much we were around each other and cuddling made her so uncomfortable for the last 6ish months. I told her I was sorry and that was the last thing I intended. She then added she didn't like how when everyone was there my attention was mainly on Madison and I always was texting her if she wasn't there. I thought this was fair and I understood her point and told her that we would stop. She said Maddox felt the same and was even more upset and he didn't come talk to me because he was so infuriated. I told her that we were dating for 6 months and I asked her to tell Maddox too. She then went home and I texted them apologizing again and telling them things would change. I told Madison and she was pissed that they didn't talk to her at all again. She no longer wanted to be friends with Hanna and said that she should not be able to tell me I was texting her too much or giving her too much attention. I understood and also thought it was kinda weird but moved on. A couple weeks later I was hanging out with Madison and we met up with Sara who was with Maddox and some of our other friends and we all hung out that night. I realized Hanna had been leaving me on opened and thought she was mad but I didn't say anything. We all went to eat and I asked Maddox if he knew if something was wrong. He rolled his eyes and had said he texted her earlier because he knew she would check our locations and see we were with each other and get upset. He wanted to let her know we just met up and it wasn't planned. Madison no longer wanted to hang out with Hanna and Hanna had made it clear before she did not like Sara and one other person there and she was not interested in hanging out with them. Maddox felt bad for not inviting her and I told him she said wouldn't want to come and it really was a random thing. We had talked and realized a lot of our fights with Hanna before had ended with us apologizing. So we both chose not to reach out and wait for her to contact us. I also thought if she was upset or hurt she has to let us know. Hanna and Maddox hang out almost everyday without me and me and Hanna would hang out occasionally without Maddox, so I really didn't see a problem with this. This happened about three weeks ago and Hanna never texted me or Maddox. We just went on with our lives and I told Maddox that I was worried she would tell people about me and Madison. He was worried she would spill his secrets too but we never got word of anything so it faded away. Then yesterday I went to a sporting event and one of my friends told me there was a rumor spreading that me and Madison were dating. Me and Madison are both not out and have only told Maddox, Hanna, and one other friend. I immediately told Madison and we found out Maddox had been telling people. Maddox and Hanna had told a ton of my friends after the first incident happened. They continued to tell people until their falling out but Maddox told our other friend, who already knew, after. Madison then confronted him and he got very defensive saying "do you think what you did was right". I have talked to him so many times about how I regret it and feel bad still to this day. Madison then shut him down and called him out more. He then apologized and left. She called me and filled me in and then he called me. He only apologized and he said sorry for getting defensive. I hadn't really comprehended the full depth of the situation and I was very forgiving. Madison is so upset and wants to confront them again and cuss them out. I personally am over the whole situation and just want to go back and just worry about getting through the day and just ignore everyone. She really wants revenge and to make them feel bad which I just don't think is right. I understand I cannot control what she does and I do understand why she wants to do that. It's just not who I am and I don't want to fight anymore. However, I do not plan on continuing being friends with them. I would rather just keep our distance. I stopped discouraging her but I am worried I am being a jerk for not standing with her. I also don't know what to do about this in general.