I (38F) was prepping/cleaning the kitchen to start dinner while also talking on the phone with my sister. I was multitasking and watching our 3yo son as well so my call was on speaker.

My husband (36M) came in from some yard work and started speaking loudly and talking over me, starting new side conversations with our son and my sister. I have sensory issues with sound and the multiple conversations were starting set them all off. (My husband knows this). My sister could hear my frustration as I was struggling trying to follow everything going on and said that I could call her another time. My sister recently had surgery and I was trying to check in on how she was doing. My husband has a bad habit of instantly trying to bring up recent worldly news he read about or new jokes he found, taking over my conversations when I'm on speaker phone with friends and family. He does so by talking over me when I'm often in the middle of talking.

So when I got off the phone I mentioned how I get frustrated when he does that. He responded back in a passive aggressive way stating, "I guess you don't want me to talk to your family anymore". I responded that he wasn't listening to what the problem was that I was highlighting and again stated clearly, I had no issue in him talking to my family. The issue is the part where you talk over a conversation instead of waiting for a pause to jump in or that he tends to talk really loud when I'm on speaker phone making it hard to hear on my end. My husband again proceeded to respond in a passive aggressive way asking if I "just want him to go away and not talk anymore because his voice is too loud." I told him that I didn't appreciate the passive aggressive responses when I'm just trying to have a normally conversation about a minor frustration. He started to get really mad saying that "I obviously have a problem with him." I said for him to please not take this to that level. He doesn't need to get so upset over something minor and that he keeps taking minor issues lately and making them larger then they are. (which he has been doing lately). I asked him if something else is going on to cause such extreme reactions and if he had something else to talk about because I'm at a loss and I'm tired of the passive aggressive responses. To which his response was, "Well I guess I can't say anything because I just make everything bigger then it needs to be." That's when I lost it. I was juggling cleaning the kitchen, making dinner, helping our child "help" me make dinner, while a hungry dog is darting under my feet. My sensory issues were at their limit and I yelled. I told him to "stop it! and that I was done with the passive aggressive comments and to knock it off." I was just so annoyed at my husband.

He sat there stunned and then responded with that he was going downstairs and away from me. I made dinner with our son "helping" me the entire time. I ate with our son. My husband got his portion, ate away from us, sitting on the couch and has been cold to me since.

Our House hold vibe: We both work full time. Our child goes to daycare during the day. He does pick up and drop off most of the time since I work remotely. We both take turns making dinner but it is prob more often me and split more like 3/4 of the time. He doesn't take primary for our son and more often then not it more like 5/8 on me there. He will clean if guests are coming otherwise he leaves most of it for me.

For this day in particular he asked me to pick our son up so he could go purchase some yard tools. Which I obliged. Not only did I do that but I also went to the grocery store with me to get stuff for dinner.

Not sure if im being the AH in this situation. Should I have just let the passive aggressive comments go? Is there anything more I can do to try to get him to have an actual conversation about my grievances?