23yo F still living at home due to being in college and broke.

I feel like my parents are narcissists. They have gone way beyond the point of being just "helicopter parents."

I have an appointment with a therapist next week. My parents claim I need to be on antipsychotic meds. I have never been diagnosed with any mental health-related issues. I cannot tell if my lashing out is due to emotional/verbal abuse. I feel lost and hopeless, and I do not know what to do to keep myself sane mentally in this house.

Here are just some of the things they have said to me. I do not know what I have done to deserve such an unloving/controlling relationship. I work two jobs, am in school full time, pick up my slack in the house, and run errands when asked.

- spam calls/texts

- tells me to jump off a bridge and kill myself

- tells me she wishes she aborted me

- threatens to put a tracker on the car i bought 

- does not give me bank account access/access to the money i have earned 

- demands to read every purchase on my bank statement

- asks for receipts when i purchase something 

- tells me to lose weight/gain weight/not go to the gym/go to the gym

- tells me my kids will not have a good life

- says she wishes she had a son/no kids at all

- controls what job/career opportunities i am allowed to avail

- guilt trips me if i treat myself

- thought i conspired w the hospital into changing my lab test results when acc they had a website outage, my mom made a three way call w the company and me and then they were concerned for my wellbeing while trying to deal w my mom

- if i have a convo w her brings up past things that she’s mad about 

- has no relationship w my grandparents at all or remorse for them even though they r getting old

- does not let me attend any type of appointment alone (e.g. dr appt, dentist) 

- tells me i have to pay rent, but doesnt let me move out????

- called me 67 times in 2 hours

- went through my imessage on my apple watch and read explicit texts w a guy proceeded to slut shame me for it

- showed up to my location unsolicited

- when i was little would lock me in garage as scaring tactic 

- would take my backpack with all my supplies to school in the morning if i didnt listen 

- will throw a temper tantrum and cry if i ask to go out 

- bought a breathalyzer to use on me after i go out (if i am allowed to)

My attention span has been so low recently, I do not know how to fix things for myself. AITAH because I do not listen after all of this has happened to me.