Just some background on my relationship with him; he is 6 years older than me and moved out when I was 12 all the way across the country and we have hardly had a relationship since then. I have tried numerous times to catch up with him over text and almost always get ignored. He still lives all the way across the country and is getting married in 2 months. I would go if I wasn't a mother to a 10 month old baby. Flying with him would be doable but very un enjoyable. I have never left him alone with anyone other than my husband, and I wouldn't be able to enjoy myself without him, so that does not feel like an option. Plus, financially, it would be a strain as my husband and I have gone from 2 incomes to 1 with increased expenses.

I texted him to let him know that I wouldn't be able to make it because of how difficult it would be to travel with a baby and that I couldn't afford it. He completely ignored me. My dad later told me how upset he is that I'm not coming. My family seems to think that I am the ass hole. Having no one in my family be understanding about it makes me want to go even less. The only thing that I'm worried about is that he won't have many people there for him as most of the guests are his fiancée's friends and family