My friend got married last month and I didn’t go. I told her I couldn’t make it because of work, which wasn’t totally untrue, but the real reason is I felt embarrassed. I’ve been struggling financially for a while, and I knew everyone would be giving nice gifts or money, and I just… couldn’t. I didn’t want to show up empty-handed or explain myself to everyone. She found out I wasn’t working that day and now she’s upset, saying I should’ve just come because “it’s about being there, not gifts,” but I honestly didn’t want to feel judged. Now I’m wondering if I made the wrong call. AITAH?