Hi I (29F) have been going back and forth with the women in my family so much over this and I'm about to just call the damn thing off and elope. So anyways I got engaged to my perfect wonderful fiance (31M) last July. We decided to do a long engagement to save up money and we are set to get Married spring of next year. From the start the women in my family have been rude as fuck making comments about how my ring isn't a diamond, how my bridesmaids HAVE to be family (I'm the only girl granddaughter???) and my wedding has to be a family reunion that I'm footing the bill for. No one is opening up there pocket books and until I was in tears to my mom about stress and she offered to pay for my dress which I'm so thankful for and wasn't expecting. Anyways the venue we have will cover the capacity of the extended family plus what i have now however it cost an extra 5,670 dollars for people I see maybe every 5-8 years and don't know really. My aunt said "I'll be tearing the family apart" if I don't invite everyone. I've been called horrible names and been given really rude treatment to the point my therapist, fiance and friends all want me to just cut off my family.

Mom my turned a leaf after she realized I've been getting really upset. On top of this I have a heart issue and can't handle stress well. I've already been to the ER for it and told to relax.

As a compromise I added all my grandparent's siblings to the list. That apparently isn't good enough. She's going around saying I'm just not inviting people cause I don't want them there. Not that we're self paying and everyone else is an extra 6K

My grandma sent me this today. Names changed but Maggie is her sister. The others are children of grandma's sisters. Mind you I'm on a doctor's order mini vacation to my friend's family cabin where I'm suppose to just chill due to being in the ER recently cause of my heart and she knew this.

Maggie is in Sioux Falls this weekend A big celebration there. Grandma Jeans 90th birthday party. Richard and Hannah were there of course and asking about your wedding and how they were looking forward to attending. Maggie said that only a limited amount of people were on the guest list. Hannah's feelings were hurt. She said she felt you had connected with all those girls in Florida. She said she didn't really know much just that Sarah wasn't invited so Maggie asked why Just fyi

I felt manipulated and hurt by this and I told her so which started an attack on me and saying everyone else paid that and more for people to be there. And I'm like no one in the family has gotten married since like 2015. Prices of weddings have gone up so much. Also everyone else in my family their mother's have paid for it. Mine cannot and I don't want her to if it's gonna ruin her financially.

I ended up uninviting my grandma I feel horrible cause she did raise me after my mom couldn't fiancally. I really appreciate her for that but the horrible things she was calling me telling me I always playing the victim. I just cannot afford another 6 thousand dollars on top of what I already am paying for the wedding. Now I get the sense my whole family besides my mom is boycotting my wedding cause I don't know if you can tell we're a Southern family and Grandma is the matriarch. I'm scared I really messed up and I should just eat the debt and cancel my honeymoon to help.

AITAH for not inviting my extended family then uninviting my grandma?