My husband (46M) and I (40F) have a friend (47M) who we have known for about 1 year. We meet roughly once a fortnight for drinks or dinner but don’t hang out all the time.

Recently they advised us that they are going on an overseas holiday for 5ish weeks in a few months and in order to afford this trip would need to give up their rental as they cannot afford to pay rent while they are away.

For context they do have a job that pays quite well (around $100 per hour) but that job is casual so they won’t get paid while they are away.

They asked if they could stay with us when they get back until they can find a new place to live and we were hesitant to say yes as we are going away ourselves a couple of weeks after that time and have hired a pet sitter to look after our pets while we are away.

We also live in an apartment and we don’t actually have a guest room. We have an office with a sofa but we do need to work in that space almost every day.

After being pressed about it a couple of times we said that we are sorry but they wouldn’t be able to stay with us for those reasons and we hoped that would be ok.

They said that no it’s not ok, and they hoped we would never be in their situation and left the group chat (just the 3 of us).

I kinda feel like they only wanted to be friends with us because they thought they would have somewhere free to stay but now I feel bad for saying no, and wonder if we should have just let them stay?

So AITAH for not letting them stay until they found a place to live when they got back?