My daughter is high functioning autistic and doesnt do well on her own in places she has never been without me especially. She is 19 years old and i try nit to hold her back with anything but im very worried about this.

Her friends invited her to go to hawaii for 2 weeks in june this year and she really wants to go. I feel terrible by saying she shouldn't go but i know as her mom deep down she would mask the fact she hates it and have mental breakdowns. I would never want her to be put into that position so i said she shouldn't go and i even said I'd take her to hawaii with me and her brother and her best friend when i had the money but she is determined to go and even said i cant keep her here and called me controlling.

We have had a situation where we went to miami to visit family and at the time she had not been there before so she had a really terrible time and had to go home early. So i definitely have that moment in the back of my mind throughout this situation.

Her father isnt around because he's in prison (nothing major) so im basically raising her on my own aswell as her little brother so im really protective of her and my family.

I also would like to say that i dont control her at all. I only advise her not to do things and if she does them thats something she would have to learn from in the future. But i wouldnt like her to go to this as ive also never met her friends except her best friend and i do not trust them with my daughter.

So im worried that im an AH because i wont let her go. She barely talks to me and grabs her food and eats it in her room instead of eating with her brother like usual. She's isolating herself from her family and its made me overthink my desicion so id like some help.

Am i the AH?