My sister is planning a destination wedding at a very high-end resort, and while I care about her deeply and want to be there for her big day, the truth is - I just can’t afford it. Between flights, hotel, and everything else involved, the cost is way outside my budget. When I told her I wouldn’t be able to swing it, she said I should “find a way” because it’s a once in a lifetime moment and family should make sacrifices. And while I get that it’s an important day for her, I don’t think it’s fair to expect everyone to go into financial stress just to attend. To complicate things, I did come into a bit of extra money recently nothing life changing, but enough that I could technically use it to go. But my priority has been putting that toward something more long term, like paying off debt or building an emergency fund. I’m trying to make better financial choices, and flying out for a luxury wedding I can’t really afford doesn’t fit into that plan. Now my sister thinks I’m being selfish and letting her down, but I honestly feel like she’s being unreasonable. I’ve tried to be supportive in other ways, but she’s clearly upset I won’t be there in person. So, AITAH for not attending her wedding even though I technically could if I chose to use that extra money? I feel torn between guilt and the need to protect my financial well being, and I’m not sure if I’m being unfair.