The main people in this story are ME (FM 16), MY COUSIN(FM 21), and MY COUSIN BOYFRIEND(M 18)

So my cousin and her boyfriend have been dating for a little while now and you know the relationship was good at first for the first three months. A little deeper into their relationship my cousin started lying about her relationship with her past boyfriend. She wouldn’t tell the truth about dating him and having a relationship with them she just told her current boyfriend that they never dated and never had anything to do with each other. Well, you guys can catch up to you and they can get found out even though you think they’re not gonna find out. Her current boyfriend has figured out that she’s been lying about the ex-boyfriend for a while and now doesn’t trust a thing she says about the ex-boyfriend.

I know you’re confused on what that has to do with me, and well a while ago, my cousin told me not to say anything to him about her past and that if asked lied to him about it. I am not a liar,have never been a liar,and will not lie for anybody even if it’s my mother. But their relationship is also not my business so I told her “I won’t say anything unless he ask me and the question has to be a yes, or no question“ and she said OK

Fast forward a couple of months on today’s date. Me, my cousin’s boyfriend and my sisters all went out to go get something to drink after I ordered my drink and sat down. He came in and started some conversations about dumb stuff like video games, and how our day was going then he brought up their relationship and how they were arguing more frequently cause she kept lying and he kept catching her in a lie then he asked me if there’s anything he should know about I told him it’s not my place to say anything cause I’m a minor and I know nothing about grown relationships. Then he asked me if she had a relationship with her ex-boyfriend, which is a yes or no question and I told him again it’s not my place to say anything. He asked me again and I said yes. Then he asked me if she’s had any more intimate relationships with anybody while they were dating. I told him no because they haven’t, but after he he listed me names and asked me if you had if she had relationships with them after all the names he said I said yes or no, and most were yes. I feel bad for telling him because I don’t like being brought into things that aren’t my business, but I don’t like lying and lying is not my type of thing.

I probably never would’ve said anything if they never brought me into their relationship problems every time they have a problem or an argument they come to me for advice I’m 16 years old and should only be worried about grades and who I’m going to prom with, but now I’m worried about if my cousin is mad at me for not lying for her and choosing to stay out of their problem.

My cousin’s boyfriend says that it’s her fault he can’t trust her, she continuously keeps lying to him about this boy and instead of just telling him the truth, his words, not mine. Honestly, as I’m reading this and saying this aloud, I do feel like it was my fault and I am the asshole, but a part of me is it proud of myself for airing out the truth, and not continuing to keep a lie.

Please be nice. I am only 16 and I’m still learning things. Am I the asshole?