So, this one is a bit messy and yeah, it sounds made up and I wish it was.

I dated this guy who was in a divorce. But it wasn't final yet, and he went back and forth with contemplating if he wanted to patch things up again. Okay, hurt my feelings, but we decided to put things on hold and I started dating other people. So did he, which I knew nothing about, I just gave him space for his former relationship.

Now, turns out he dated this girl in our 'seperation time' and got her pregnant. Turns out she lives with him and they got a 1 year old son. Which I honestly never knew of.

I was never invited to his house because I was 'bad news' if it turned out he wasn't a single father, bc of the divorce.

I was in his car once and saw a birthcard with the name that he wanted to name his first ab*orted son, together with the name of his other gf. He told me it was a sample card and it was for a client. (he does IT but not graphic design, so I was confused and stupidly thought nothing about it.)

So nope. Nopernopeski, he had this secret family all that time. He even came over for Christmas etc with my family... When his 'girlfriend' was popping out the kid.

The thing is, we live in a small village and I'm working in food/retail, so I'm going to bump into the mother and child eventually. And he looks so much like her.

I can't figure out how I can be ever polite to them or hold back my tears. I know the child did nothing wrong and the woman was also lied to, but I do not know how to handle it, except for being stone cold.

I would never be unpolite but I could never be friendly towards it, I'm afraid. And I know I will see it one day, and I dont want it to feel disliked, bur I can't like it's excistance.

And sorry that I'm using the term 'it', it doesn't mean any disrespect, it just helps me to distance from the absurdity of the situation.

AITAH for resenting a kid bc of what his father did?