So- I let Thai guy in Reddit. He was pretty nice and all. We talked a lot. I had a bf but he blocked me after using me. So my friend (let’s say Kai) introduced me to his friend (R) so me and R started to talk a lot. She had been through a bad break up as well. We were really similar and we enjoyed talking to each other. Everything was fine, until I began to have a crush on her and Kai noticed it. He was very protective of her and said he’s afraid I’ll use her as a bandaid after my bf broke up with me. I understood he was concerned and I get where he was coming from. Like a week passed by and we were getting closer with R. I told her I have a crush on her and she told me she needed time to think about her feelings. I gave her time bc I wasn’t in a hurry to get with her. I just had a crush.

So Kai found out and he was being super protective of her and kept putting his nose into our stuff. I knew he was protective I tried to tell him I’m not trying to harm her. Ofc he didn’t trust me. I tried to earn his trust but he just kept making my and R’s relationships worse. We were doing good and just being friends. But then Kai started to say things like “you’ll steal R from me” and here’s a direct message he send me: “I just hate myself for this because it's probably good for u two but I am myself am not ready for the stress...yeah maybe it's not my fault that u two would hurt each other later but it feels like it, I just hate it, I was just healing and now it feels like things are trying to come back, yeah maybe nothing will come from this but I'm simply not ready for the stress and worry that comes with it Ig, it all starts with innocent stuff but turns obsessive...ur kind and all that but I just cannot stop thinking ur just gonna hurt her somehow” And I understood where he was coming from, but this was too much stress for me and R. Even R said that he’s paranoid. I told him that he can get help for it. Since he has said that he’s a liar but understand that it’s wrong. I have a psychiatrist so I tried to suggest he gets some help too.

But he just said this: “i can't heal...i just can't be the person i was anymore as much as i want to be.. anytime i try to heal something happens again...my mom might need surgery again...this guy is maybe trying to start shit again..and now i feel like i might lose R, but i won’t cos I trust her. i'm so...tired.. i try to help cos i know i'm the one person who can do that.. and btw i know R won't leave me because she told me something yesterday”

Also I made me and my crush matching pfp’s I drew them. But a day passed and she wrote me this: “Well, i know it's not a good reason, and I hate that I function like this, it's no one's fault but my own though...

So like, I'm very very fragile, and stressful situations really freak me out... and when me and Uni spoke yesterday about you, about all that stuff you know... and I was just so scared I was making him feel like he wasn't important, so I just didn't change my pfp cause I thought that might make the situation worse? I just tried to forget about it out of stress... but I realized after that It must hurt for you that I just didn't mention it again, so I just wanted you to know this cause I really care about you and don't want you to feel bad... I know it's stupid and I'm so sorry...”

I talked to Kai about it and he said: “yeah to u it's just a pfp but to so many others it's a bit of pressure yk?

and for her? u drew a pic of her, do u not understand how stressful that was for her?!” He blamed it on me even when I asked her many times if she is sure she wants the pfp. And I told her she doesn’t need to change it. But Kai just kept attacking me.

I talked to Kai’s bf about all this after Kai & R blocked me. I showed him the conversions and he was on my side. He tried to talk to Kai but didn’t work. His bf told me that he wanted him to block me. But his bf didn’t. We both want to help him. But how is he doesn’t accept any help? His bf told me that even when Kai said he has his bf and R to talk to, they can’t be his only source. Since it’s exhausting for them as well. And I agreed.

What do ya’ll think I can do?