So I'm 30f and work in a heavily male dominated field, like there's only one other woman in my department. Remember her, calling her Barb and she will come up later.

It's pretty labor intensive work, requires a lot of movement and lifting.

I got pregnant and miscarried- I have a child, but have had a lot of issues surrounding fertility. This is all to say that I have sort of my own way of greiving these things, which usually involves grieving at home and then trying to be as normal as possible.

When I came back from a couple days of pto I did tell Barb because she made a comment about me looking sort of out of it/ill. I considered us friends (we've worked together for over a year) but I did not explicitly ask her to keep this information to herself. Like, there's more gossip and weird social backstabbing in our field then you might expect, but I hadn't seen any of that from Barb.

I don't know who she told first, but two of my coworkers came up to me and were really pissed off. One of them was of the opinion I should've asked for light duty in another department, as he felt responsible for my safety??

After a couple days I've gotten a lot of additude about it because I was working normally- lifting, bending, etc- and there's this shared mind set I should've moved to a different department the minute I found out.

One of my work buddies, I'm gonna call him Cliff- says the men are mad at me because men are just weird around pregnant women, and that yeah I'm kind of an ass for making everybody uncomfortable.

At first I really blamed Barb for saying something in the first place, but at this point I think maybe it's me for putting my business out there to begin with. Maybe everybody sucks and I should move to another department- anyway, thanks for reading.