My husband and I had Easter planned out in advance. Early morning church, late lunch with my family. Due to church being early and our daughter not being able to really enjoy her Easter gifts, we decided after lunch we would head home and enjoy the evening playing with our daughter. Also I was working the next day and he was going out of town.

I received a text from my MIL the Friday before Easter that she had a basket for my daughter. Up until this point no one from that side of the family made any plans for doing anything for Easter. I texted back we would be available Saturday after 4 if they wanted to bring it over. They were both working so she suggested Easter or Monday. Monday wouldn't work because of work and sport commitments, so I said Easter after 4 if they could bring it over.

I did this purposefully because of our already planned day. They live 3 mins from us and are empty nesters. Both work as they are young (early 50s, late 40s) Our child is their only grandchild. MIL agreed to Sunday after 4 and said she would talk to FIL.

Easter Sunday goes as planned. Until I receive a text from FIL for us to swing by later to get the basket. This is where I may start being the AH. It was already after 3pm, we were finishing up at my family's lunch and our daughter had been patiently waiting to get home to have our family time opening and playing with her Easter gifts. I was annoyed they wanted to switch plans so late and I just wanted to be home. So I texted back that we had been on the move since 8am and if they didn't want to bring the basket over, it would have to wait until later in the week. My FIL texted back okay and that was it. They did not come over and we didn't go there.

Fast forward to Monday, I get a long text from MIL that their feelings were hurt that we didn't stop over. That now they wouldn't get to see her open her basket. That I could go to my moms but not stop there for 5 mins. I essentially lost it after that.

Other than putting my daughter on the bus 3 times a week (less than 20 mins a time) they have no relationship with her. They don't call, stop by, or see her outside of those 3 mornings. This has always upset me because they always make time for their friends and their friends children. I asked them for help getting her on the bus not because I need the help but so that she could have some sort of relationship with them. We have gone weeks without hearing from them.

Since this has always been building, I unleased my hurt feelings. That they just could of brought the basket themselves since I never said I would come get it and they weren't doing anything. That they are never around. That they don't call on her birthday or major holidays or when she's sick. That we had our plans weeks in advance. My husband backed me up completely as he already has a strained relationship with his mother over their uninvolvement. I was the only one keeping up the effort to build the relationship.

His family thinks I'm the AH and just should have stopped over and avoided all this. AITAH for not picking it up and WIBTAH if I cut off their relationship to my daughter over this?